Who Am I ?

That I should be born - decided by my parents and God (picturise with a sign of wonder).
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That I should join my LKG at age 3.5 - decided by the Dept of Education, government of Tamil Nadu.
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That I should move to another city, another school every 2 years subsequently - decided by the Indian railways who promptly transferred my father every 2 years to Chennai, Coimbatore and finally to Bangalore.
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That I should study in an elite "CBSE" school and become smarter than I really was - decided by my parents.
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That I should not become smarter - decided by my "CBSE" board.
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That I should join a tuition like everyone else for my 12th boards in Bangalore - decided by my brother.
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That I could select any course as long as it had "Engineering" somewhere - decided by my parents with unsolicited feedback from "learned" elders in the community.
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That I should do "Puzzles for you - by Shakuntala Devi" and read only "current trends in IT" instead of "India's perennial misfortune in the World Cup" in the newspaper to appear "intelligent" to the folks from Infy & Wipro - decided by my peer community in college.
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That I should work for a "MNC" software company - decided jointly by my parents with unsolicited feedback from my brother.
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That I should learn a certain "professional" way of speaking, writing & expressing myself.. in short be anything other than who I was - decided by the company training head
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That I should generally try to be less frank in my opinions of the workplace and be a more "agreeable" person - decided by my project lead.
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That with time, I should learn to "delegate/dump" my work to new entrants in the team just because they are the lowest entities in the company's tall order - decided by my project manager.
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That I should work towards working more outside work hours on J2EE work to enable a speedy visa to the USA - decided again my project manager.
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That every ram, sita and lakshman in Bangalore should know that I am leaving to the USA in a month even when I myself don't - decided by my parents jointly with a community that fosters such broadcasts.
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That I should code less, dump (work) more & "manage" more than there is to manage - decided by senior project lead at USA working on same project for more than 4 years.
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.....and to cut a long story short....
That a beautiful and intelligent princess should somehow be lured into the prospect of (unfound) intelligence, (unfound)wit and (unfound) looks to love and marry an ogre.
- decided and executed to perfection by God ...Bravo !
....and so it goes with my life.
And So I wonder, when it is that "I" make a decision that makes me realise "who" I am.